Overrated

Boys are overrated. I bet you expected me to say something like that huh? Eh well, it is usually on my mind. I guess it's on everyone else's mind too. I keep talking to people and reading blogs and whatnot. Darn you holidays! If you don't want to listen to me rant about this, I'd stop here. I'm just so sick of love and this never-ending game of looking for a potential future eternal companion. Don't get me wrong, the idea of actually succeeding at that would be incredible. However, I'm getting fed up with it. Let me explain why. First off, guys play these dirty tricks. They start with the sweet talk and lots of compliments. Oh, how I love those things. They ask lots of questions, acting like they really are interested in what's going on with me and what makes me. And oh how I love someone that talks to me, and actually listens, and it's not all about them the whole time. They call, and send lots of texts, messages...etc. So I start to slowly give in then BAM....snap.... trapped! Maybe they aren't looking for something long term. I can understand that. I'm not asking to fully commit right now, just see how things go. I understand that not everyone is compatible and right for each other, that happens too. But really, I can't stand the jerks out there that think they can just walk all over me and treat me badly. No no, that is not happening anymore. Also, there are those stupid perverts, who just want some action. I'm not that kind of girl. Where do some of these guys get the idea that somehow me being a good girl is just an act. Psh, I'm not perfect. But I like having a good girl image. And I don't appreciate being treated like an object, or someone to fulfill your little fantasy. Please, hire a whore and stop using me. And seriously, when I say no, for real that means no. That doesn't mean ask later, I'll change me mind, it means absolutely, positively no. Now back off. And don't think I'm like all the other girls. I grew up with boys. I understand a thing or two about them. I like things plain and simple. I like honesty and being direct. I don't want to complicate anything. For the most part, I'm a nice person. I don't like being mean. I think this would be my downfall. I have got to stop being so nice to these stupid boys.  Because somehow, I'm the one who always gets hurt. 

Earlier this year I read part of a book with a friend and we made goals and lists. (So typical of me, I know) 10 absolutely must haves and 10 absolutely can not haves in a future companion. I mean I already have a list of future qualities I want in a spouse. Thank you young women's for making me write a list every Sunday practically. But this is something that you want. They can't change. No giving in, no settling. I’ve been told numerous times by my father that "the only time we can afford being selfish is in choosing a mate." My friend suggested this makes life easier because you say no to everyone unless they posses these qualities. (I also would expect my future spouse to have somewhat of a list and expect similar things from me) However, like I said my downfall is being too nice.  So here's my list. Some are more specific, others are broad. Some have little like subcategories. Some may seem silly to you, but it's my list so don't judge. haha.

Haves:

 1. Can verbally communicate well (makes decisions, gets to the point, honest, open and isn't afraid to tell me anything)

 2. Spiritual (RM, worthy priesthood holder, dedicated to the Lord)

3. Appearance is important to him. (Clean cut, button up shirts, always dresses to impress)

4. Sings and dances

5. Gentleman (opens doors, respects me, can order for me, manners)

6. Affectionate (Not excessively in public, but cute. Kisses on the forehead, hand holding...etc)

7. Emotional (Tough but sensitive, doesn’t cry more than me, doesn't have jealousy issues, trust me)

8. Outgoing (confident, doesn't leave me in the shadows, funny)

9. Has to be LDS and can't join just because of me

10. Unconditional Love (openly loves me no matter what, tells me he loves me at least once a day)

Can't Haves:

1. Selective kindness (Nice to some but not to others)

2. Arrogant

3. Mama's boy, too feminine

4. Different culture or way different background

5. Drinking/Cursing/Drugs

6. Dirty (dirty thoughts, speech, actions...)

7. Not involved in pornography

8.Doesn't embarrass me (Not too goofy, can be serious when necessary, doesn't make me feel uncomfortable)

9. Rude, walks around like he owns the place, invades privacy

10. Argues, yells, distant

For once, I just wish I had someone who actually respected me and liked me for me. It would also be nice to actually have someone to bring to all these family events, for instance, the wedding this weekend. Once again, I'm the only single one. Bummer.

xoxo