Embrace things that are out of our control.

"Some things in life are out of your control. You can make it a party or a tragedy."

--'Vision in White' Nora Roberts

Advice: 

Make a list of things you worry about. Now split them into two categories: Concerns you can do something about and concerns beyond your control. Beside each item you can control write down a plan of action to better those things.

Examples of things right now you can control:

1. How many times you smile today.

2. How much effort you exert at work.

3. Your level of honesty.

4. How well you prepare.

5. How you act on your feelings.

6. How often you say “thank you.”

7. When you pull out your wallet for luxuries.

8. Whether or not you give someone the benefit of the doubt.

9. How you interpret situations.

10. How often you notice and appreciate small acts of kindness—they’re everywhere!

11. Whether you listen or wait to talk.

12. When you walk away from a conversation.

13. How nice you are to yourself in your head.

14. Whether you think positive or negative thoughts.

15. Whether or not you form expectations of people.

16. The type of food you eat.

17. How much time you spend worrying.

18. How many new things you try.

19. How much exercise you get.

20. How much time you spend trying to convince people you’re right.

21. How often you think about your past.

22. The attention you give to your loved ones when you see them.

23. How much you enjoy the things you have right now.

24. Whether or not you communicate something that’s on your mind.

25. How clean or uncluttered you keep your space.

26. What books you read.

27. How well you network at social events.

28. How deeply you breathe when you experience stress.

29. How many times you admit you don’t know something—and then learn something new.

30. How often you use your influence to help people instead of focusing on building your influence.

31. When you ask for help.

32. Which commitments you keep and cancel.

33. How many risks you take.

34. How creative/innovative you are in your thinking.

35. How clear you are when you explain your thoughts.

36. Whether you formulate a new plan or act on your existing one.

37. How much information you get before you make a decision.

38. How much information you share with people.

39. Whether or not you judge other people.

40. How much of what other people say you believe.

41. How quickly you try again after you fall.

42. How many times you say “I love you.”

43. How much rest you get at night.

I am currently working on ways to better myself. I mean I am always trying to better myself, but it's never been my main focus, until now. Especially since that's what is absolutely necessary for me to do right now at this moment in time. I found the information above online. I thought it related well. Especially since my most difficult challenge or thing I need to work on is worrying about things out of my control. I'm a pro at getting worked up over things that I have absolutely no power over what the outcome is. So I made a list (because we all know me and my lists. I love them!), and it helps actually visually seeing it. So I encourage everyone to do the same now. Find some relief. Ha. that's all until next time.


xoxo


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